Mistake # 1 - Be your own wedding planner - Having friends and family to help with the wedding planning is so much fun. You want to share this special experience with your loved ones and allow them to take part in the whole process. Magazines have checklists, countless books have been written, T.V. shows are abundant and you may have had some experience in planning other events yourself. You might be thinking that with all of this free information and your team of willing assistants you could pull this off and save tons of money in the process. There is, however, no substitute for a well-trained and experienced wedding planner to guide you through the many twists and turns you will encounter along the way. A wedding planner knows which vendors in your area will provide you with the best possible service at the lowest price. Planners are able to negotiate great discounted rates with each vendor. It is also extremely important to have a neutral party to act as an advocate for you when conflicts flare up with your vendors and even sometimes your family. Finally, having someone on your side on your most important day is invaluable. Thousands of details will need to come together and you will need someone with experience to make the day go smoothly. Even wedding planners who have been in business for decades hire other wedding planners to assist them when they have a wedding in their own family. Laurie Hartwell, Owner of A Wedding To Remember”, one of the most respected wedding planning firms in Florida has this to say about the subject: “In the future when my daughter gets engaged there’s no doubt in my mind that I will hire another wedding planner to assist with the big day. I want to remember, enjoy, and embrace the whole experience as any Mother of the Bride is meant to.” Don’t make your friends and family work on your wedding day, let them enjoy this time with you. You only get to do this once and your family will appreciate being guests at your wedding, not workers. Leave the work to the professionals so that you can all savor the moment free from stress.
Mistake # 2 - Have a friend bake the cake - “A cake, Haunk, is made of flour, sugar and water…my first car didn’t cost that much.” So the line goes from the movie “Father of the Bride”. It’s easy to see why George’s first choice would have been to have his sister bake the cake or maybe order one from the local grocery store. Before you go out and have Gladys with the hair net write ‘Congratulations” in her best cursive on a sheet cake consider this. On your wedding day as your guests are meandering about your reception admiring the splendor of the room, the unique centerpieces or the great tasting champagne, one of the highlights of the tour will be a close inspection of the cake. When your guests survey your cake what they will see is an extension of your personality, style, and the level of elegance you attribute to the day. Bakers, real bakers with experience, are not just bakers, they are artists. They will take the time to sit down with you for a free consultation. They will listen to all of your ideas, they will look at all the pictures you have cut out of magazines. Only a professional baker can incorporate all of those things in their edible art. Of course, let’s not forget about the way your cake will taste. You should always do a taste testing. Bring your mom, your sister, your best friend. Make a day of it! Try every flavor, texture and frosting available. Is it too dry, too moist? Was the frosting too sweet, too hard, too thin, not smooth enough? These are all things you will want to find out well before Aunt Betty rolls out her home-made version of the leaning tower of Pisa on your wedding day. Hire a professional baker.